Jul. 28th, 2010 A Good Word

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Proverbs 12:25 – Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad. (ESV)

I have an acquaintance who never fails to compliment me on some aspect of my attire.

 
Now, this might be a normal occurrence for many of you, but as I have never been accused of being a fashionista, itโ€™s a rare event for me. She doesnโ€™t gush or tell me I look like Iโ€™ve lost 30 pounds (which, while it would be nice if it was true, hasnโ€™t happened yet). She points out simple things like โ€œI love your necklaceโ€ or โ€œthat sweater looks great with that topโ€. As I am slightly paranoid about most of my outfits (unless my sister picked them out), I canโ€™t help but be gratified.

It may be shallow, but I like a compliment.

Iโ€™ve had several people who have recently provided a word of encouragement at just the right moment.

A random comment at Bible study from someone, telling me how much she enjoys the blog โ€“ I didnโ€™t know sheโ€™d ever read it โ€“ made my day.

Another friend just today added an encouraging comment about my writing to the end of a non-writing related note. Thereโ€™s no way she could have known that the summer schedule, while fun for me and the kids, is brutal to the writing lifestyle Iโ€™m attempting to carve out for myself. But her words were soothing to my anxious spirit.

And then thereโ€™s the priceless moment when someone tells me Iโ€™m doing a good job as a mom. Especially when it comes on a day when Iโ€™m feeling like the worst mom on earth.

Iโ€™ve been wondering how often I fail to encourage someone because Iโ€™m too busy to pay attention, or because I assume that they are so put-together, so confident, so sure, that anything I might say would be meaningless. When, in reality, there is no way for me to know whatโ€™s happening behind closed doorsโ€”what frustrations or fears they are facingโ€”or how close to the breaking point they are.

And I wonder, as someone who is rarely at a loss for words, if I shouldnโ€™t do a better job and use my powers for good. Iโ€™d love it if when people walk away from me, rubbing their ears because Iโ€™ve been talking for fifteen, twenty, OK, fine, thirty minutes straight, they walk away with a glad heart because my words werenโ€™t self-absorbed and self-focused, but were a message of encouragement, soothing to an anxious heart.

Father, let it be.

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6 Comments

  1. Good thoughts! I'm right there with you on giving and receiving encouragement. We all need it! You know Proverbs 25:11 says, "A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver." Golden apples in a silver picture! That must be the epitome of beauty in God's eyes I suppose. Keep up the good blogs!

  2. Amy says:

    I always feel encouraged after we talk – which is usually just slightly over 30 minutes ;]
    Too bad I can't do the cross out thingy on here (and italics).

  3. Kelly says:

    Well said…a small kind word can stick with you for so long. I need to be better at this.

    Saw what I think was Emma's picture from the conference this weekend. Did you go? How was it?

    Kelly
    mom to AnnaKate

  4. admin says:

    Marilyn – Thanks for the kind words!

    Amy – More like 60, or 90, or 120!

    Kelly – Thanks. Yes, we did go and it was fantastic. Such a great opportunity to meet other families. And so strange – in a good way – to see RTS sweeties around every corner! We need to chat – any chance we can get together before school starts??

  5. Blayne says:

    Hi Lynn… I just read your blog and have to agree, I think everyone enjoys a compliment… but so few have the gift to do so easily.

    I just sent a link to the devotional to a good friend of mine… I think it will be a blessing to him and the words he needs to hear. I've still got one devotional left… I will post it next week… so if you have some more it would be great to have.
    Take care in God's love,
    Blayne

  6. Anonymous says:

    A good friend complimented me one time about my high Cherokee cheekbones. Just a little thing, but I've never forgotten it. It doesn't cost a thing to share a kind word. Love, Mom